Where there’s a will ...
Waiting for someone to die is a lousy way to inherit money, or anything for that matter. There’s a slightly vulturistic characteristic to it. I’m not judging, that’s just how I feel about it. If someone likes or loves me enough to leave me some kind of inheritance, I would rather have that person than the inheritance ... just saying. But life has a natural course of action and attrition and it’s really nothing that you can control, so it’s good that people have things like a last will and testament so that their wishes can be honored after they’re dead. I respect that aspect of it. Look, I’m not saying if you’re willing to leave me money, I wouldn’t be willing to accept it; I’m merely saying that I would feel badly about it. And only one thing can suppress that, a full carbon tri-bike, one of those $15,000 jobs that weighs four pounds and practically pedals itself -- so if you’re willing me money, keep that in mind.
But on a more serious note, I was just recently left out of a will. I expected to be left out, and I was, so no great surprise on my half. But I would be lying if I didn’t fess up and say that for a fleeting moment it stung a little. After all, I’d had more good years than bad ones with these people. But alas, a fight over something very, very stupid drove such a wedge between us that it was clearly irreversible. Not that I would take it back or do anything differently; I wouldn’t. I’m a man with a ton of pride and when you go after that you’ll find yourself in very churned up waters. So I don’t feel bad about the outcome of the final shot from beyond the grave, but for one moment it just stunk.
What’s my point? I’m glad you asked. These people that I’m referring to were family. We were never terribly close, but it was always good to see them and I think they felt the same about me. But what if you didn’t have your affairs in order as they did to make their final words a matter of law? How would that make you feel, or worse yet, they did and you got cut out? I’m guessing it would really hurt and it would so for a long time. Because as the song goes -- when you’re dead, you’re done. So I guess this is my plea to you to not do that. If you have a will or are doing a will and there’s someone you’ve got a burning desire to cut out -- really think about it before you do it. Because at the reading there’s nothing you can do to undo it -- dead is done!
Of course, they can contest it and hold it up forever and lay claim to things they’ve got no right laying claim to. Those folks are usually angry and become spiteful and frankly will probably end up getting dropped from other wills. Some folks will just do that because they are greedy and feel they are owed something or can steal from someone; frankly those people are unemployable and that’s their one and only job.
Wills can bring out the absolute worst in people that’s for sure. For me, mehh ... I don’t honestly care. Would the money I stood to inherit have helped? Sure it would have. But it was a small price to pay to keep my pride intact after a highly irrational request. Nonetheless, here I am penning a article about it so it clearly bothered me more than I thought. After all, we were family, and to me that’s supposed to mean something. But obviously, it doesn’t and maybe that’s what bothers me the most. What the Hell is up with that?
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